Motherhood is ‘the state of being a Mother’, as Dictionary.com defines it – with such simplicity I must say. To me, the START of Motherhood is the day the double line showed up on my test kit. Whatever follows till now has been a whirlwind of events and emotions.
I started this blog with the intention of setting aside purposeful ‘me time’ amidst mom duties. With the little (but real) experience I have, I also hope to offer simplified solutions for new moms like myself to better manage our expectations of motherhood. At the end of day, it’s these expectations that make or break us.
While struggling with physical body changes and uncontrollable emotions outburst ON TOP OF keeping a tiny human being alive and happy, we also have to manage expectations that others have of us. Are you kidding me!? No. It’s real. And these expectations affect us more than Cesarean incision or vaginal tear.
There are many articles and books that talk about myths and misconceptions of pregnancy and motherhood. Mommy social influencers and friendly mommies on motherhood forum also share insights of their experiences (at times horror stories – not for the faint-hearted). BUT each pregnancy is different, and so is each child – even with the same mom. It’s helpful to read up so that you know what to expect. Its great to learn more from experienced moms. However, it’s important that we do not benchmark our (and baby’s) milestones with that of others.
No one knows your body and your baby better than you. When facing with unrealistic expectations from people…
“Listen, smile, agree, and then do whatever the fuck you were gonna do anyway.”
– Robert Downey Jr
This is my only simplified advice for you, mommies! 😉
P/s: I’m still working on it. 😅